EFT Coaching Frequently asked questions about EFT sessions
I am often asked a few questions by people who are interested in and/or considering EFT coaching sessions with me, so I will answer some of those questions just in case they can help you in making a decision that is right for you.
1. EFT is a self-help technique, so why would you have EFT sessions with a practitioner?
Yes, you’re right, EFT is an excellent self-help tool. In fact, I encourage my clients and workshop attendees to do the EFT tapping every day, just like I do. Often you can get excellent results with self-applied EFT but occasionally you get to a point where you are stuck and unable to go any further on a particular issue. Most of my clients are people who have tried EFT on a given issue but have been unable to resolve it on their own and feel that they need some help. Either that they wish to address an issue which they consider too big or overwhelming to deal with alone.
A skilled EFT practitioner is able to help you work through more aspects and layers of a given issue or problem than you would do on your own, thus resolving more than you would on your own, and usually much quicker than you would be able to do on your own. I see my role as facilitating change. You do the changing with some help from me and EFT.
A good metaphor is that of self-massage compared to receiving a massage from an expert massage therapist. Giving yourself a massage is very good for you, but you will not be able to do as thorough a job when you massage yourseld as the massage therapist can. It’s the same with EFT.
So by all means, tap daily and use EFT for whatever you are able to resolve on your own, and keep the EFT sessions with me only for things which you are unable to resolve on your own.
2. EFT works so quickly, why not just book in for a single session of EFT? Isn’t that long enough to resolve most issues?
It is true that, sometimes, EFT can clear issues in as little as a couple of minutes, for example, overcoming a life-long phobia or a long-standing chronic pain which disappears within two minutes of tapping, never to come back, but this is not usually the case. Skilled and experienced practitioners of EFT know that most issues are multi-layered, multi-faceted, and have multiple aspects, and possibly more than one contributing factor, and are not resolved in muniutes.
This means that in order to completley resolve an issue, all of the aspects, or “layers to the onion”, need to be peeled, healed and resolved gradually, one by one. This gradual process of resolving one aspect at a time is very much quicker with EFT than other forms of therapy, but it still takes its time. For example, usually in order to totally resolve a phobia it may take two to three hours. Sure, sometimes it can happen in minutes, but sometimes it can take longer too. But, even if it were to take as long as five, or even ten hours, it is still much quicker than most other modalities or therapies.
Another thing to consider is that sometimes profound change and transformation in your life takes time to integrate and can influence other areas of your life than just the “problem” itself. It is not uncommon that in the first session you will work on the surface level of the problem and as a result of resolving the first few layers, the real problem, or core issue, comes to the surface. Also, sometimes after treating the surface level symptoms of a problem the issue appears to be resolved, there are other side aspects or issues which rise to the surface as a result of having cleared these initial layers of the problem.
For example, a lady I recently worked with had been suffering from constant back pains for many years. We started treating the symptoms and this took us to working on a few events involving her abusive mother when she was a small child. The result was that for the first time in years she was practically pain free. However, what ensued was that she started feeling more anxious and troublesome stomache started playing up more than it had been recently. This anxiety and digestion issue were able to be resolved in further EFT sessions once more unresolved emotions and events were addressed. If we had been limited to a one-off session, the work would have been started but left unfinished.
3. EFT on the phone or on the computer? How does that work? Isn’t it more effective in person?
EFT over the phone or Skype is just as effective as EFT in person. In fact, the final result, i.e. feeling better emotionally, mentally, energetically, spiritually and physically and/or having improved performance/actions/behaviours, is just as good through phone or Skype sessions as through face to face sessions.
From a practitioner’s perspective, the use of the telephone removes all visual cues and thus requires listening more attentively, and carefully. I think it is this attention, concentration and focus which adds to the effectiveness of EFT over the phone. The client taps on himself or herself just like in face to face session. The only difference is that you are not face to face.
There are a few added benefits to EFT over the phone, such as, being able to do it in the comfort of your own home, you don’t have to drive through traffic find parking, you can do it anywhere in the world (in fact I have clients from various countries around the world). Plus, some people like the realtive anonimity that working over the phone can provide and don’t feel so emabrassed doing the tapping or working through emotions over the phone as they might face to face. It is however very important that you are able to find a time and place where you will be undisturbed.
4. What can we work on with these EFT sessions?
The EFT model states that “The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system”. If this is true, it means that because EFT balances the body’s energy system through tapping on the meridian acupoints, it can be effectively used for re-balancing or resolving all negative emotions. Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, goes on to also state that “Our unresolved negative emotions are major contributors to most physical pains and diseases.” This means that EFT can be used to address the unresolved negative emotions which contribute to most physical pain and diseases.
In my experience, EFT can be used with any issues or problems which are stress-related or have an emotional element to them. I have worked with many clients with a wide range of issues including perfomance issues and physical issues and there has always been an emotional component to all of these things.
Scientific research, studies and experiments have been conducted with impressive results supporting EFT’s effectiveness in treating, anxiety, fear, phobias, fybromyalgia, depression, cravings, weight loss, pain and physical symptoms, improving sports and athletic performance, trauma, PTSD, abuse, psychological symptoms, certain seizure disorders, addictions. Besides this research, there are many thousands of anecdotal reports of people having used EFT for hundreds of various issues.
EFT does not always work but can usually be of some help. Often the benefits that EFT provides are extremely impressive. However, there are other times where the benefits are average to minimal and, in very rare cases EFT may not even work at all. Although, I have not encountered a case of EFT not working at all for several years.
This said, there is no way of knowing how effective EFT would be for resolving your issues. For any medical conditions, physical, mental or emotional, you should always seek medical advice from a health professional and any other health practitioner who is able to provide you with professional health advice.
5. Is EFT a form of psychotherapy?
EFT is a simple tool for self-help, self-healing, self-growth and self-development. However, if a psychotherapist or a counsellor uses EFT as part of their therapy or conselling sessions, it could be considered a form of psychotherapy. In the same way, when if EFT is performed by a medical practitioner, an EFT treatment could be considered as a medical treatment. EFT is part of a new branch of Energy Medicine called “Energy Psychology” and whilst depending on how it is applied and by whom it can have some similarites to other forms of therapy. However, not being a psychologist or a therapist, I prefer to adopt a coaching model and do not consider our EFT sessions as therapy. But rather coaching you to find the resources and solutions within yourself, which you know are there, even though you may have forgotten that you know that you have those resources and solutions within.
Whether working on physical issues, resolving past, present or future emotional issues, or for improving performance, I utilise some questioning techniques in order to be able to find the most important things to tap on, so as to make the most of the tapping and the EFT session as a whole. It is the tapping that leads to the profound shifts, which EFT can produce, but it is important to get to the core issue(s). Through listening carefully and asking the right questions we are able to unravel the parts of the problem which need to be cleared. During our EFT coaching sessions there will be quite a bit talking and also a lot of physical tapping on the acupoints (EFT tapping points) on your face and body.
6. Isn’t it a little bit expensive for some tapping?
How much are the following statements that I have heard from clients worth in dollars?
“My back is pain-free for the first time in twenty years.”, “I spent $20,000 trying to overcome my PTSD and within 15 minutes of tapping it was gone.”, “I had spent thousands of euros in specialists appointments trying to find what was causing the constant pain in my leg and in just one session it has disappeared.”, “I am now able to drive on the highway without being terrified.”, “I have decided to stop worrying about my health.”, “I am ready to forgive and forget… I didn’t think I would ever to be able to say that”, “I had given up on thinking about my goals and dreams but now I really look forward to them.”, “I haven’t been procrastinating with my studies and I wasn’t worried about this semester’s exams.”, “I have been much more easygoing and laidback around my kids and not uptight or irritable like I used to be.”
The question as to how much these statements are worth is unanswerable because these statements themselves, and the positive effects in people’s lives that they reflect, are priceless. It’s like asking the question: How much is your peace of mind worth?, or: How much is emotional freedom worth? EFT is way underpriced. It is a great example of undercharging and overdelivering. The value that EFT can offer is not reflected in how much it costs.
Professional EFT practitioners have something in common with all of the following: physiotherapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, chiropractors, remedial massage therapists, osteopaths, counsellors, hypnotherapists, life coaches, as also with engineers, plumbers, gardeners, carpenters, nurses, boilermakers, architects and computer technicians. Namely, they all spend a lot of time and money and energy in learning their trade or profession and all of them charge for their skills, expertise, time, and services.
Personally, I have spent thousands of dollars in EFT training and have studied and practised for thousands of hours so that my skills enable me to facilitate people in changing and transforming their lives in a way that they choose to. And seeing them get the kind of results and benefits in their lives which lead them to say the comments above.
Here’s a story which I really like with a moral that highlights the immense value of skill and getting results:
A giant ship engine failed. The ship’s owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure how to fix the engine. Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship’s owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed.
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for $10,000.
“What?!” the owners exclaimed. “He hardly did anything!” So they wrote the old man a note saying, “Please send us an itemised bill.”
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer -$2.00
Knowing where to tap -$9,998.00
The moral of the story is that the tapping is important, but knowing how to find what to tap on makes all the difference.
7. Do I have to talk about my private personal issues in an EFT session?
No, this is not necessary. One of the beauties of EFT is that you can even work on resolving the things which are too personal or too private to share with anybody else. This can be done without necessarily having to tell anyone what the issue is or talking about it at all.
Of course, during a session we will normally speak openly about whatever you wish to work on, but if there is something which you feel you need to keep to yourself, that is fine. We can still resolve, release and clear emotions around that without me even knowing what it is. Sometimes, any embarrassment, guilt or shame is cleared released and resolved so effectively that it is no longer an issue you feel you need to keep to yourself and you are comfortable to talk about it, but this is totally optional and not necessary.
8. Is EFT right for me?
I don’t know. That’s up to each person to decide for themselves. I do however imagine that if you are still reading this far down the page, it is because there is something you wish to resolve or something which you would like to improve. You may have already tried other avenues to resolve it. I regularly have clients who come to EFT as a last resort after having tried many other things and it usually works, even where nothing else will.
And, as I mentioned above, if it is a medical condition you are dealing with, before doing EFT, consult your medical health professional.
9. What happens during an EFT coaching session?
First thing in our session, we start by getting clear on the desired outcomes and purpose and intention for the session. During each session, we’ll have the chance to do plenty of tapping, exploring the contributing factors of your issue and releasing and clearing the various aspects around the issue(s). Exactly how that progresses will depend on the nature of the issue, how you feel, and what arises through the process. I will gently guide you but you are always in charge of the direction of the session. You choose the pace at which we work so that we neither go too fast nor too slow for your liking. Towards the end of the session we re-assess how effective the EFT has been in clearing the issue and set home tapping assignments.
10. Who makes the call? What do I need?
I call you on your home phone, or any land-line phone, or Skype on your computer if you have it.
Hands-free, or a headset is better than having a handheld phone but a normal phone can be used too. It is a good idea to have some drinking water at hand and tissues ready for our session. Privacy and a quiet and safe environment where you will not be disturbed are essential.
11. Will I get emotional or will it be painful?
At some point during the tapping session it is quite common to feel some uncomfortable emotions such as e.g. anger, sadness, anxiety, but they are only ever temporary and transitory because once they have been cleared and released through the tapping process they make room for e is always a better, more balanced feeling, such as peace, lightness, freedom, liberation, spaciousness, harmony, relief, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness, presence etc.
I view this feeling worse before feeling better as a part of the emotional healing process and welcome it as it comes. Fortunately with EFT this is generally a gentle and easy process of letting go of stuck or disempowering or imbalanced emotions. Once this has been done, a balance of body, mind and the energy system is allowed to flow and return to its natural healthy state. This means that you feel better.
12. OK, I know that EFT will probably help but I’m not sure that I am ready to do anything about it.
All of the previous questions were answered with a series of statements, sentences and phrases. Now, if you’ve decided that EFT could be the right thing for you, this statement is answered with a series of questions to get you thinking more about it.
What would happen if you didn’t do anything about it? Would anything change? Would it get worse or just stay the same? How would this make you feel? What will happen if you try EFT and it works? How much better will this make you feel?
13. How do I go about booking the sessions?
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